Letting go of someone we love is unarguably one of the most difficult things that we can practice. Nobody wants to do that, but unfortunately, sometimes it remains the only option. If you’re also faced with no other choice except for this one, then we’re going to share with you five steps which can help you in walking on this painful path. It’s difficult, but not impossible. Let’s see how it can be done:
#1. Cut contact
The first thing that you need to do is cutting contact with the person whom you’re trying to forget. Delete the contacts from your phone, erase pictures, discard other information that you have and anything else that may reconnect you to them. This is imperative. Without cutting yourself off from the person you’re trying to forget you won’t be able to heal yourself. Think of this step as an important prerequisite.
#2. Face your pain
Rather than running away from your pain, face it head-on. Rather than finding ways to drive your mind away from those feelings, face them and let the pain go away itself. You can just be a sex civilian for all you care about. That way your wounds will be healed naturally. On the other hand, if you keep running from those feelings of pain, they’ll get worse over time. The longer you keep them hidden deep inside you, the more they’ll hurt you. So face them and let the wounds heal naturally.
#3. Stop considering reconciliation
If multiple reconciliation efforts have failed on your part, there’s no point in still thinking about them. You may think that things will work out this time, but there’s hardly any chance of them working out if they didn’t work out earlier. So instead of preparing yourself to be hurt once again, stop giving aid to those thoughts of reconciliation.
#4. Learn to forgive
Whatever happened, let it go. It might have been your fault or the fault of another person. If it was your fault then probably the other person couldn’t forgive you and things came to the ground. On the other hand, if it was the fault of another person then they didn’t realize their mistake and your relationship fell apart. Whatever the case, you’ve got to learn to forgive.
If it was your fault then you need to forgive yourself for whatever happened (even if the other person didn’t forgive you). If you’re repenting your separation, you’re already paying a heavy price for your mistake. Apologize to yourself (sincerely), and forgive yourself.
On the other hand, if it was the fault of another person, you need to forgive them as well (even if they didn’t ever ask for forgiveness). There’s a reason behind that – if you don’t forgive them, your mind will keep thinking “why did they do something like that?”, or “why didn’t they realize their mistake?”. In order to stop yourself from thinking that way, you’ve got to forgive the other person for whatever they did. Forgive and let it go.
#5. Start living your life
Once you’ve followed the methods outlined above, you’ve established a good foundation to move on. The next step is, well, to move on. Start living your life the way you would in a normal manner – go to an office, hang out with positive people, and find some constructive things to do in the free time. Feed the birds, help the needy, or educate those who can’t afford to get a formal education. Or if you wish, find some of your favorite hobbies and spend your free time in them. Slowly things will get back to normal.
Forgetting someone you love is not an easy task, but if you follow the steps outlined above then you’ll be able to do so over time. Relationships are important, but when things don’t get fixed then sometimes it’s better to let them go. If you’re also suffering from that painful phase, follow these steps and bring your life back to normalcy instead of making efforts that will go in vain.